Blaming the wrong people
March 12th, 2008, 6:29 am · 2 Comments · posted by fsherman
•On New York Governor Elliot Spitzer hiring prostitutes, Dr. Laura Schlessinger weighs in — and blames the wife: “When the wife does not focus in on the needs and the feelings — sexually, personally — to make him feel like a man, to make him feel like a success, to make him feel like her hero, he’s very susceptible to the charm of some other woman. … The cheating was his decision to repair what’s damaged and to feed himself where he’s starving. But yes, I hold women accountable for tossing out perfectly good men by not treating them with the love and kindness and respect and attention they need.”
Quite aside from the general ridiculousness, I don’t think hiring a prostitute constitutes succumbing to “charm.”
•Monsignor Gianfranco Giotti of the Catholic Church on sexual abuse by priests and its coverups by the hierarchy: While admitting the “objective gravity” of abuse, he also stated that media coverage should be denounced because it “discredits the church.”
Because as we all know, doing bad things is not as big a problem as someone telling people when you’ve done bad things.
March 13th, 2008 at 7:20 am
She was not excusing Spitzer. She was talking about “in general” - Dr. Laura says that ***IF*** you choose a good man ***AND*** you treat him right, he will not stray. Nowhere does she excuse men for their decisions to commit adultery. However, she recognizes that if a wife isn’t living by her marital vows (which are more than just “forsaking all others”), THEN a man is more likely not to live by his, either.
Spitzer is probably a malignant narcissist, not a good man.
March 13th, 2008 at 7:50 am
Shclessinger: “The cheating was his decision to repair what’s damaged and to feed himself where he’s starving. …yes, I hold women accountable for tossing out perfectly good men by not treating them with the love and kindness and respect and attention they need.”
I’d say that’s excusing men for cheating.
It’s also a balderdash. Wonderful, loving wives get cheated on, just as wonderful, loving husbands do.